Here’s to the superhero single parents

According to Statistics South Africa, more than 50% of the 886 202 babies born in 2014 were born to single mothers. In addition, divorce rates continue to climb in South Africa. Most divorced couples have been married for a number of years, making it likely that they had children.

So, while raising a child on your own isn’t easy, it’s important to remember you’re definitely not on your own. Here are a few pointers to help keep you – and your child – happier:

Make a date with yourself

It’s vital to give yourself time to relax and recharge – even if it’s just to read a book or magazine in peace. Many single moms and dads miss out on me-time as they don’t schedule date nights away from the kids, as married parents would. Arrange for someone to look after your child for a few hours and use the time to do something that you really enjoy – no working or chores allowed.

Find good role models of the opposite sex

Your child needs good role models of both genders, so be wary of falling into the trap of demonising all members of the opposite sex. Reach out to friends or family members (such as siblings or your parents) to find positive role models for your child. These people will be vital when it comes to mom- or dad-oriented events at school.

Give yourself some slack

The vast majority of single parents work and look after their children, which doesn’t leave much time for domestic tasks. So cut yourself some slack – it’s not the end of the world if you leave home with the beds unmade or dirty dishes in the sink. It’s more important to eat breakfast with your child and talk to them about the day ahead.

Be prepared

Preparation is key when you’re parenting on your own. You don’t have the luxury of sending the other parent back home to fetch whatever you left behind. Stock your car or handbag with items like an extra set of clothes, sunblock, non-perishable snacks, bottled water, wipes and a small first aid kit.

Cultivate a support system

You may not like asking for help, but you will need it. If you fall ill or work pressures become intense, you will need to know who you can call in a crisis. Also ask close friends and family in advance whether they are prepared to be listed as an emergency contact if you’re not available. Make sure they have the details of your child’s doctor, teacher and other important people.